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1 minute ago, chestertony said:

Yeah sure I will!

Any more progress along your route to being cuckolded?

I've always thought a good idea is to have a mate who comes around to your place or bumps into you in the pub  and your wife finds attractive and things naturally develop from there!?

Pity you are in London as I'm sure she'd like me and I like what I see! 

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Yeah I just feel and know what scenario wouldn’t work and she’d be suspicious that I was up to something. To randomly bump into a guy haha 

 

its a kinky idea but not one I think is realistic 🙂 

yeah it’s a shame but we are not ready for that yet. We are just flirting with the idea of sex in a public scenario where people might see us 

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sounds like a long burn to convince her

you just gota take small steps if its what you want

and hope she will come around

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Honestly, I'd avoid setting anything up.

The key to this lifestyle is honesty and communication. It's an amazing lifestyle that's worth the time and patience for all parties but you have to take some proactive actions without being pushy.

Being pushy is a turn off, you need to build her confidence and make her feel part of something special with you.

 

I would suggest one evening telling her that you have something difficult to talk to her about but you love and respect her so much that you don't want to keep secrets. She will of course be worried but want to know what's on your mind so then just set out our inner feelings, she will feel relief that it's nothing worse and respected that you were able to open up to her about something so personal. I'd suggest start with some context, how you love her so much and how you have always admired her beauty while being so proud of her and love showing her off. How she is the centre of all your fantasies, it might seem weird that you don't fantasise about other women but only about her, she is the star of all your fantasies. How you keep all that in so as not to upset or surprise her but you feel you need to open up to her and just share that side with her.

Then go on to explain how you fantasise about her with other men, how that excites you, how you've tried to repress it for so long but you can't. Ask if as a treat she might be willing to roleplay ideas with you, talk about other guys during sex, share that fantasy with you, something special between you. You might be really surprised by how she will react to having you share something so intimate and personal with her, I know my wife was really happy that I opened up to her that way.

 

Then it's a marathon, not a sprint. Make sure that she feels special. When you have sex and talk about other men, makes sure it's the best sex. She will learn that to get you turned on then she can talk about other guys, slowly it can become something you both use to create a strong sexual experience between you.

 

Then you can tell her how you talk to other cucks and bulls for support, it's better than talking to other women. Let her read some conversations on Kik etc so she can see you really are just talking about her. She will feel special and be reassured that you truly are fantasising about her with others. From there she can join in those conversations, it can make such a difference having a bull tell her how hot she is and her seeing how that pleases you. This helps to build her confidence, from there meet socially or for coffee, build friendships with one or two nice bulls as friends. From there it's just progression, socials to evening socials to hotel socials.....

 

I can tell you that women love to feel desired and enjoy more men but they worry about losing their husband/partner. They have so much vested in a relationship that they don't want to risk it just for good sex. It's about building her confidence that it isn't such a risk and finding the right bulls to experiment with.

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Fantastic advice and suggestions 

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51 minutes ago, coupleoxford said:

Honestly, I'd avoid setting anything up.

The key to this lifestyle is honesty and communication. It's an amazing lifestyle that's worth the time and patience for all parties but you have to take some proactive actions without being pushy.

Being pushy is a turn off, you need to build her confidence and make her feel part of something special with you.

 

I would suggest one evening telling her that you have something difficult to talk to her about but you love and respect her so much that you don't want to keep secrets. She will of course be worried but want to know what's on your mind so then just set out our inner feelings, she will feel relief that it's nothing worse and respected that you were able to open up to her about something so personal. I'd suggest start with some context, how you love her so much and how you have always admired her beauty while being so proud of her and love showing her off. How she is the centre of all your fantasies, it might seem weird that you don't fantasise about other women but only about her, she is the star of all your fantasies. How you keep all that in so as not to upset or surprise her but you feel you need to open up to her and just share that side with her.

Then go on to explain how you fantasise about her with other men, how that excites you, how you've tried to repress it for so long but you can't. Ask if as a treat she might be willing to roleplay ideas with you, talk about other guys during sex, share that fantasy with you, something special between you. You might be really surprised by how she will react to having you share something so intimate and personal with her, I know my wife was really happy that I opened up to her that way.

 

Then it's a marathon, not a sprint. Make sure that she feels special. When you have sex and talk about other men, makes sure it's the best sex. She will learn that to get you turned on then she can talk about other guys, slowly it can become something you both use to create a strong sexual experience between you.

 

Then you can tell her how you talk to other cucks and bulls for support, it's better than talking to other women. Let her read some conversations on Kik etc so she can see you really are just talking about her. She will feel special and be reassured that you truly are fantasising about her with others. From there she can join in those conversations, it can make such a difference having a bull tell her how hot she is and her seeing how that pleases you. This helps to build her confidence, from there meet socially or for coffee, build friendships with one or two nice bulls as friends. From there it's just progression, socials to evening socials to hotel socials.....

 

I can tell you that women love to feel desired and enjoy more men but they worry about losing their husband/partner. They have so much vested in a relationship that they don't want to risk it just for good sex. It's about building her confidence that it isn't such a risk and finding the right bulls to experiment with.

Great advice so thanks very much. I agree I don't wanna rush this at all, I think this thread indicates my precariously slow approach and knowing my wife better than anyone I can feel progress :) 

 

I wanna make her feel beautiful and confident in herself before I move onto the topic of me wanting to share her. Or even fantasise about other men and her. Small steps but I'm willing to do it to make things move. 

 

Thanks again for your candid advice 

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But it is also important to keep some momentum, it can just fizzle out else and not go anywhere.

Slow and steady steps, make it all about her but don't be so afraid that there's no progress. I was like that for a long time, my wife is very reserved in many ways. She was raised a Christian, refused to watch porn, expressed her views on the sanctity of marriage so there was no way she would consider this lifestyle.

So I was so surprised by how she was so open to discuss this with me, she felt respected and loved that I could share these ideas.

Then when she was talking with bulls she let out this deep hidden woman inside and she would enjoy dirty talk which she would hate before and she loved to swap porn and well, she was just another person with a bull.

Today we are going to church as a family and after we have plans for the little ones to spend a few hours after with a church friend. We are going on to have coffee with a new bull friend she likes and has been talking to.

 

Honestly, you'd be surprised what desires and ideas they keep inside, she tells me about what other mums/wives she knows talks about. But going from the safety of a relationship to being able to explore these things takes time and patience to build trust and confidence. But it's an exciting journey so enjoy it.

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